The Truth About Domestic Abuse
- Domestic abuse includes physical, emotional, financial, psychological, and sexual abuse.
- Domestic abuse is totally unacceptable. Everybody has the right to live their life free of violence, abuse, intimidation and fear.
- Domestic abuse is very common. One in four women, and one in six men, experience domestic violence at some point in their life.
- Domestic abuse is very dangerous. Each week in the UK, two women are killed by a partner or ex-partner.
- Domestic abuse is about power and control. Abusive, violent and sexually abusive behaviour is wide-ranging and subtle in what it tries to achieve.
- Domestic abuse is intentional and instrumental behaviour. It is about scaring you into doing something that you don't want to do or out of doing something that you do want to do.
- The abuser is 100% responsible for their abuse. The abuse is their problem and their responsibility.
- It is not your fault. No person deserves to be abused, regardless of what they say or do.
- Perpetrators can change. Their behaviour is within their control and they can stop if they choose.
- You can't change them.
- We can't change them.
- You don't have to put up with it. Everybody has the right to safety and respect, to put themselves and their children first and to focus on their needs.
You can increase your safety. If they are intent on being violent, you will not be able to stop them, but there might be things you can do to increase your safety.