how would I know?
Finding out that your child has been using alcohol or drugs, can be frightening - possibly due to your own lack of knowledge or lack of confidence about discussing the issues. It is natural for young people to experiment but many will only try a substance once. Most young people don't go on to have a problem - addiction, crime and death are not as common as the media make us think. More young people have problems with alcohol than with drugs.
It is vitally important that children are aware of the risks of alcohol, drugs and solvents and can make informed choices.
Drug and Alcohol use among young people - how widespread is it?
Research shows that by the age of 16 years, two in every five young people will have tried at least one type of drug. In 2002, 18% of 11-15 year olds drank alcohol at least once a week. In 2000 around 40% of 13-14 year olds were 'drunk or stoned' when they first experienced sexual intercourse.
It is important to discuss alcohol and drugs early - this will not encourage children to use alcohol or drugs - avoiding talking about it will not protect them.
When talking to young people it is important to:
- Talk about attitudes and values in relation to drug and alcohol use - this means exploring your own views about what is acceptable.
- Tell them about the risks involved - accurate information and support will help them to decide what to do.
- Discuss drugs in the wider context of their use as medicines and legal drugs such as alcohol and tobacco.
Why do people use alcohol and drugs?
Curiosity, wanting to break the rules, relaxing, escaping reality, coping with difficult situations or feelings, because they enjoy the effects or their friends do it.
How would I know?
Signs possibly linked with using alcohol or drugs are:
- Seeming panicky, tense or drowsy
- Complaining of sickness, lack of energy, skin problems, lacking concentration or seeming depressed
- Changes in relationships with family and friends, behaviour and/or performance at school/work; financial situation or personal possessions 'disappearing' or being sold.
Remember that in young people these signs are easy to misinterpret and are often simply 'typical' adolescent behaviour. So don't jump to conclusions - try to make sure that your child feels able to talk openly with you - this is their best protection.
Drug and alcohol use by parents
Problematic use of alcohol/drugs by parents/ carers can seriously affect the care and wellbeing of their children. It is estimated that 2-3% of all children under 16 years of age is affected in this way. Many parents need specialist support and treatment to enable them to continue to care for their children properly.